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Preparing for Divorce

Recordings of Children – Can they be used in court?

IS RECORDING KIDS ILLEGAL EAVESDROPPING? Lately my work in custody cases has got me focused on the use of recordings of minor children as evidence in court. It’s so easy to record anything these days; just whip out your smartphone. ...
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Pendente Lite Motions

“LITE” DOESN’T MEAN LOW-CALORIE Pendente lite. It’s pronounced “pen-den-tay lee-tay” and it’s Latin for “pending the ligation.” The phrase refers to motions made before a court for judicial relief  (outcomes) needed by a party  during the pendency of a lawsuit, without waiting ...
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Collaborative Divorce–A Process Option Whose Time Has Come

WHY COUPLES CHOOSE COLLABORATIVE LAW OVER COURT Kim Ciesinski recently wrote an excellent article in the New York Law Journal explaining the advantages of collaborative law over litigation in divorce cases. She identifies upsides including  client-driven negotiation, privacy, emotional guidance and financial ...
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Thinking About Divorce–What to Consider First

PERSONAL, FINANCIAL, AND LEGAL CONSIDERATIONS You’re thinking about divorce. It’s a complicated process, whether you look at it emotionally, financially or legally.  You are likely feeling all different emotions, sometimes minute to minute it changes – anger, confusion, fear, hurt, ...
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Legal Consultations–Fee or Free?

WHY SOME LAWYERS CHARGE A CONSULTATION FEE AND SOME DON’T We are sometimes asked why we charge a consultation fee when some attorneys give free consults.  Our reasons are rooted in the quality of a potential client’s decision-making following the ...
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Family Offense Petitions

WHAT IS A FAMILY OFFENSE PETITION AND HOW DO I KNOW IF I NEED ONE? DO YOU FEEL UNSAFE?  The breakup of a family, no matter how civil or calm, can be tense and stressful for all its members.  People ...
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Introducing Your New Love to Your Children

WHETHER, WHEN AND HOW TO INTRODUCE YOUR KIDS AND YOUR NEW SIGNIFICANT OTHER You’re divorced or separated and you’re dating someone you’re serious about. You want to introduce your new partner to your children. You want this introduction to go ...
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Holiday Blues

STRESS MANAGEMENT AT HOLIDAY TIME BEGINS WITH YOU There are many articles about ways to manage stressful family situations during the holidays, especially situations involving children.  There are articles about two-house families post-divorce, blended families (yours, mine, ours), loyalty to multiple families, stress around step-families, toxic and dysfunctional families, ...
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Divorcing and Difficult Conversations – Where to Begin

DEALING PRODUCTIVELY WITH CHANGE TAKES COURAGE — BUT IT’S WORTH THE EFFORT Getting separated or divorced often requires having many difficult conversations.  Sometimes it is hard to know where to start.  If you are in the process of divorcing or are ...
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